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After an argument a Husband gave his Wife…

A husband gave this cake to his wife after an argument! ?

Subhan’Allah! Such a sweet, cute & creative thing to do for someone you love for the sake of Allah! ?

Abu’l-Darda’ (may Allah be pleased with him) once said to His wife: “If you see me angry, calm me down, and if I see you angry, I will calm you down, otherwise it will be too difficult to live together.”

Never Compare Your Marriage to Others

Never Compare Your Marriage To Others.

Some wash their husband’s clothes and it works for them. Others don’t and amazingly it works for them too.

Some cook for their husband and it works for them. others don’t and shockingly, it works for them.

Some are full time house wife and it works perfectly for them. others are not and trust me, it also works for them.

Some know their husband cheats and it works for them. others don’t know and don’t want to know and it works for them.

Some contribute to the upkeep of their home and it works for them, others don’t and it also works for them.

Some are in distance relationship and it works for them, others are in a close relationship and it works for them.

Some sleep in the same room and it works for them, others don’t and amazingly it works for them.

Every relationship works and will only work if everybody understands that no two marriages are the same, no two individuals are exactly the same, and no two situations are exactly the same.

Even when the situations are the same, the individuals are not and even if the individuals are the same, the circumstances surrounding those marriages are not the same.

We come online daily and read tons of articles about what people do in their marriage, the one that don’t wash is calling the one that Washes a slave, the one that washes is calling the one that don’t wash bad marriage (wife) material.

One of the major destruction to 21st century marriage is social media counselors, articles, posts and testimonies.

What works for you? How sure are you that the person you are copying is happy?

My dear, you are not mad, you are not a slave, you are not rude for seeking happiness.

One of your major goal is to seek happiness and peace of mind in your marriage, it can only be gotten if you understand that even if your name Is Amaka married to Emeka, you are not the same as Your Amaka neighbor that her husband also bears Emeka. You guys are different and unique in your own ways.

Please while you read things online. Please know what works for you. It might sound stupid to others but provided you have peace of mind and you are happy, please stick to it.

Everyone has their own share of challenges that come with marriage and everyone has their different approach to it. If you must copy, know what you are copying, know who you married, know you are different.

Your marriage is not second hand, fake or outdated because you are not doing what people online says they are doing. How sure are you that they are doing it? Some will tell you to quit but they have been enduring for years even when theirs is worse than yours.

Please have a mind of your own, know you are different and seek for peace of mind and happiness in your marriage. It all depends on what works for you.

May we have Everlasting relationships with our spouses.

Your Time Will Come

She is married at the age of 21.
– Oh and I’m still single at 35.

She’s momming three kids.
– Oh and I am 10 years married and have none.

She is a manager in an international company.
– Oh, we graduated together and I am still jobless.

She travels the world.
– Oh and I have never been abroad.

Job title, income, grades, house, and Instagram and Facebook likes – the number of categories in which we can compare ourselves to others are infinite.

Where it is expected from you to be a doctor or engineer, get married by 21 and have mortgaged house and 3 kids by 26.

RELAX.

You’re not LATE.
You’re not EARLY.

Everyone is running their own RACE, in their own TIME.

Don’t be violent or mean to yourself for no reason other than just because your path is different from the person’s path beside you.

Be your own cheerleader.

Stop comparing yourself with others and instead refocus all that energy internally and focus on how you can become the best version of you.

Never feel ashamed or embarrassed just because someone pointed out to you that you “must” be married/or a mom/or slimmer by this time.

When you decide that the only one you have to please is Allah, it is empowering and motivating.

It is a fantastic blessed feeling shutting out the opinions of the outside world which is what I encourage each and every one of you do.

In Almighty Allah’s hands time is a tool. He makes all things beautiful in His time. You are very much ON TIME, and in your TIME ZONE where destiny is already written for you.

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