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Romance in Islam
ROMANCE IN ISLAM ❤️
Look at the story of Abdullahi Ibn Abubakar and Atikah bint Zaid.
Atikah was so beautiful, one of the most beautiful female companions.
They were so in love, that they were mad about each other, if they could swallow each other they would have done that.
Abdullahi was crazy about her, to the
extent that he started missing Salat and Jihad, until Abubakar Siddiq (RA) commanded Abdullahi to divorce her.
Abdullahi became depressed that
he started singing love poems about Atikah up and down at home.
This was what made Abubakkar(RA) to re-consider the issue and eventually Abdullahi and Atikah were back together again, and Abdullahi even made
Atikah to promise him that she won’t marry any other man after his death.
The Prophet (SAW)
said, a woman will be with her final husband in Jannah (Tirmidhi).
Abu Darda and Umm Darda were also another lovebirds, to the extent that when Abu Darda died, Umm Darda refused to get married again because she thought no other man can replace Abu Darda.
When Muawiyah proposed to her, she declined and said, am already engaged to
Abu Darda in paradise.
How sweet! That’s eternal love.
Marriage can be made beautiful or terrible, it all depends on the spouses.
When Umm Silah, the wife of Ahmad Ibn Hanbal died, he wept and said, I have lived with this woman for the past 30 years and we never quarrelled for once.
People asked him, how is that
possible?
He said, whenever I am getting angry
she keeps quiet and whenever she is getting angry I keep quiet, so we never had a mutual argument.
How romantic!
How many couples today can spend a week without
argument?
Brothers and sisters learn to be romantic
and sweet, some of you are even shy of
expressing your love for your partners.
If you don’t tell them your feelings, who
will???
Ahmad Ibn Hanbal said,
women love to be told clearly that they are loved.
It strengthens the feelings and affection.
If you refuse to express your feelings for her, it will create a barrier of harshness between you and her.
These are just a few instances.
Islam is not a boring religion.
Jokes, sports, love and romance are all allowed in Islam.
In fact, Islam is the epitome of love, kindness, tenderness, mercy and compassion.
Islam has a better alternative to the western civilisation.
So instead of reading the western lovely stories like that Romeo and Juliet, Paolo and Francesca, Antony and Cleopatra, Tristan and Isolde, Lancelot and Queen Guinevere etc…which often end in tragedy, so read the lovely stories of the companions to see the best form of love and romance which is pure and sanctimonios.
Read the lovely story of Khadijah Bint Khuwaylad – the best love ever,
Atika and Abdullah – two love birds,
Hanzalah and Jameelah – blissful of honeymoon,
Umm and Ikramah – love on the run,
Umm Sulaym – Islam is my bride price,
Hind Bint Umayyah – jealous but pious,
Umar and Ummu Khulthum – couple and social work to mentioned but few.
Husband & Wife
Who is better?
A caring man is better than a handsome man
Sincerity
Marriage Tips
Few marriage tips 💝
- Look good and smell great for your spouse.
- Be a good listener.
- Make them feel secure, don’t threaten them with divorce.
- Leave the past for Allah, don’t dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.
- Don’t act as if you are doing her/him a favour by working or providing, for Allah is the Provider
- Respect them if they might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within Halaal boundaries.
- Help ur spouse take care of the children. (this is especially for husband’s)
- Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself.
- Go out on a date or a get-away for the weekend in a nice location, preferably without kids.
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Accept your spouse’s imperfection
No marriage is perfect, no spouse is perfect, no living circumstance is perfect. There are challenges every household faces and every single relationship will deal with problems. The successful marriage is the one where the husband and wife do their best to overcome their hardship together, fulfilling their obligations no matter what the circumstance.
Dua 🤲
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَٰجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَٱجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wathurriyyatina qurrata aAAyunin wajAAalna lilmuttaqeena imama
Our Lord, Give us, from our spouses and our children, comfort of eyes, and make us heads of the God-fearing.”
(Surah Al-Furqan 25:74)
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