English Translation of Al-Quran
[33].Surah Al-Ahzab [The Confederates]
Ayat 53. O you who believe! Enter not the Prophet’s [SAWW](PBUH) houses, except when leave is given to you for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation. But when you are invited, enter, and when you have taken your meal, disperse, without sitting for a talk. Verily, such (behavior) annoys the Prophet [SAWW](PBUH), and he is shy of (asking) you (to go), but Allah is not shy of (telling you) the truth. And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. And it is not (right) for you that you should annoy Allah’s Messenger, nor that you should ever marry his wives after him (his death). Verily! With Allah that shall be an enormity.
Tafseer of Surah Al Ahzab (The Confederates) Ayat 53. O ye who believe! Enter not the Prophet´s houses,-until leave is given you, for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation: but when ye are invited, enter; and when ye have taken your meal, disperse, without seeking familiar talk. Such (behavior) annoys the Prophet: he is ashamed to dismiss you, but Allah is not ashamed (to tell you) the truth. And when ye ask (his ladies) for anything ye want, ask them from before a screen: that makes for greater purity for your hearts and for theirs. Nor is it right for you that ye should annoy Allah’s Messenger, or that ye should marry his widows after him at any time. Truly such a thing is in Allah’s sight an enormity. The rules of refined social ethics are as necessary to teach today as it was with the rude Arabs whom the Prophet had to teach in his day. Those mentioned in this verse may be briefly recapitulate thus: (1) Enter not a friend’s house without permission; (2) if invited to dine, don’t go too early; you are asked to dine, not to wait for the preparation of the food; (3) be there at the time appointed, so that you enter when you are expected and invited; (4) after the meal, don’t get familiar with your host, especially if there is a great distance between him and you; (5) don’t waste time in tittle-tattle, causing inconvenience and perhaps annoyance to your host; (6) understand what is proper behavior for you, he may be too polite to ask you to depart. All this has a spiritual as well as a social bearing: respect and delicate consideration for others are among the highest virtues. The actual manner of showing respect to ladies may be different in different circumstances. But it is an essential principle of good society to show the greatest deference to them. To the “Mothers of the Believers” this respect was due to an exceptional degree. Considering his position, the Prophet deserved to be respected before all other men and nothing should be done to cause him the least harm and annoyance. This applied not only during his lifetime, but it applies now, because his teaching and personality are alive to us. It was not fitting that his widows, both for their own position and for the position of the Prophet, should be married by other men after him. And this mark of respect was duly observed in history. “Annoy”: Adha may equally mean to vex, to cause hurt or injury, to insult, to ill-treat by slander or unseemly conduct, or hurt the feelings of (someone). The Prophet came with a divine mission to teach and reclaim the world, and he is entitled to the respect of all, even of those who do not consciously acknowledge his mission, for his mission works constantly like the forces of nature. In a minor degree the “Mothers of the Believers” are also entitled to respect.
English Translation of Hadith
Hazrat Abu Saeed Khudri (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah [SAWW](PBUH) said, “Keep only a believer for a companion and let only a pious eat your food”.
[At-Tirmidhi Hadith # 2395 and Abu Dawud, Hadith # 4832].
Lesson: as mentioned above in Surah Al-Ahzab Ayat 53. “When you are invited, enter, and when you have taken your meal, disperse, without sitting for a talk” This Hadith forbids Muslims from befriending infidels and stresses that they should establish a bond of friendship and fraternity with the pious persons only. The above Hadith signifies that taking believers for company has good consequences on the Muslim. While feeding only pious people compels the Muslim host to provide only Halal or lawful foodstuff for his household as well as his guests.
